Don’t mind me, I’m living in my own world

Everyone lives in a bubble, with their own problems, but what happens when someone asks for your help, are you willing to help or pretend that it’s not your business?

I have always thought that my friends were pretty strong, and I actually think of myself as a strong, self-confident, independent man. To my big surprise, I found myself tearing up when I saw of one my closest friends crying over a break up. I didn’t know what to do or what to say.

Saturday afternoon, I was immersed in a world of books, papers and pens when I got phone call from a friend. At the beginning I thought he was high because he couldn’t even talk. So I asked him, “Are you high, man?” He said no, “My boyfriend just broke up with me and I have no place to go now.” I was perplexed. They have been together for a year and I thought everything was fine. Wrong! Oh, How wrong I was!

What scared me the most was the fact that I never saw him cry and the worst part is that I didn’t know how to comfort him, I didn’t know what to say … I went to his house and helped him move his stuff out. We finished and I said everything is going to be fine. Oh wrong, wrong, wrong! He was crying as if the end of the world was that day. I hugged him and I kept repeating the same words that seemed to be useless.

I realized that we, as friends, are not supposed to say, “Everything is going to be fine.” We are there to listen, not to give advice; our friends are to make their own decisions. Yes, we can say everything is going to be fine but what if not? Nobody wants to hear someone else saying, “Oh when I broke up with my ex or I had the same experience when ….” Just be there for your friends and the most important thing is to listen.